If you are a single parent who is looking to enter the world of online dating, you want to ensure you have the best experience possible. So the following 6 tips are important tips to remember when online dating as a single parent.
Whilst this rule applies to all people who date online, it is all the more important for those who have children. You should never share your real name, mobile number, address, financial details or any personal information about your children, like their nursery, school or childminders until you are 100% sure that the time is right. This should probably be after you have had your first meet up with the person to get more of a feel for them.
Online dating with Dating After Kids allow you to communicate with a prospective date without the need to exchange any other personal details about your identity. So stay safe by keeping your personal information hidden until you feel you know the person well enough.
If something feels like it doesn’t add up, it probably doesn’t. Trust your instinct when you are getting to know people online. If you don’t feel completely comfortable with that person, then don’t meet up with them. While it can be hard to feel like you are getting to know someone online, and people can portray themselves in a way that isn’t always totally accurate, if anyone makes you feel uncomfortable or uneasy then stop all communication with them and move on. At Dating After Kids, we take online safety very seriously. There is a function to block a person from contacting you, and if you feel it necessary, you are able to report a member to our support team, who can look into any concerns you may have further.
While we always want to portray ourselves in the best light, it might be worth considering carefully how you complete your profile as a single parent. If you are looking for a relationship, semi-naked photos, sexy profile names or drunken party photos might not portray the best impression of you. Equally they might attract the wrong kind of attention from others online, who might regard you as up for anything. Try to avoid bringing sex into the initial conversations with other single parents, as it might mean you start off on the wrong foot.
Like the kids, make sure you have tried to find out as much as possible about the person before you take your romance offline and meet up. Google, Facebook and other social media are a great way to double check if things add up. It may seem like snooping, but you’re safety is most important, and ensuring you know as much about someone before you meet them is crucial. If they have nothing to hide and have been honest about themselves, there shouldn’t be a problem!
If you do decide it’s time to meet up with someone you have been chatting to online, make sure this is done in a very public place, like a bar, restaurant or public space. Choose somewhere that you are familiar with and feel comfortable in, but don’t choose somewhere that you frequent too often, or can always be found in.
Always tell someone where you are going, and ensure that you have a mobile phone with you, so that you are contactable.
Never accept a lift, and don’t let your drink out of sight. Always stay in control, so watch how much alcohol you consume.
For your first few meets, make sure it’s just yourself, and not your children that meet your prospective partner.
Although it is important to be safe, when it comes to online dating as a single parent it is also vital to have fun and not take yourself too seriously. After all, just because you have a child to take care of doesn’t mean that you don’t have a life yourself! So have fun meeting other single parents online and don’t be too impatient. It takes time to find the right single parent for you, but it can be fun finding them!