Dating, it isn’t always the easiest of games and for some people they may feel that they are just finding the wrong people each and every time. If this is the case for you then perhaps you should consider changing your search a little, and consider what single parents have to offer.
Single parents make fantastic dates, even for those who feel cautious about getting involved with someone who has responsibility for a smaller person in their life. But what makes a single parent a great dating choice? Well, apart from the fact that they will take birth control seriously, we are going to showcase some of the very best reasons why!
If one thing is for sure about dating a single parent, they will be taking baby steps when it comes to a new relationship. A lack of spare time and adjustments to be made, this can make them ideal for someone who is looking to take things slow and isn’t ready to dive into marriage and family planning.
After all, with a single parent “I can’t see you for a week” doesn’t mean they are not interested, it may just mean that they have a pretty hectic week with parental responsibilities on top of everything else. Taking it slow is also more likely to keep that magic spark alive that only comes at the very starts of a relationship.
This is particularly the case for single mums who start dating again. There is a certain sense of comfort that comes to many women after they have children. Perhaps it is the realisation that their bumps, lumps and curves have a purpose or perhaps just the realisation that their body will never quite be the same as before children and that’s just fine.
It is with this confidence that single parent mums can become more confident and sexy, letting themselves go and not worrying about the lights being off!
It is a common misconception that a single parent is dating to find themselves another parent for their child or children. In fact it’s likely they want to keep their children well away from the relationship until it’s very established.
Having a child makes you more aware of what it is that you are looking for, which means for the people they date, that there is less likely to be silly games played or messing people around. A single parent doesn’t have time to waste, and they will either tell you that they want to progress the relationship or tell you straight it’s not going anywhere.
Or perhaps that should be that they will often know how a relationship can fail. Many single parents will have experience of a relationship that hasn’t gone to plan. These mistakes, misgivings or perhaps disasters mean that they know the things to avoid for future relationships. If they want to make the relationship work, they will be committed and keen to ensure their next relationship turns out better.
Above all else, a single parent makes a great date because they want to find something meaningful. They have the companionship and love that they need from their children and just simply want to share their life with someone else; someone who doesn’t need their dinner cut up or a glass of milk in the middle of the night!
Happy dating a single parent!
To find out more, read our top 6 tips for staying safe when dating online as a single parent.
It can be difficult to get the true measure of someone until you’ve spent some time together, which of course can make it easy for people to misrepresent who they are and what they are about. However, if there’s something that just doesn’t sit right with you, regardless of whether you can put a finger on it or not, then trust your gut and don’t move forward. If you feel their behaviour is inappropriate at any time then make sure you record the incident and stop all communication at once. Don’t ever feel bad for wanting to make sure that you and your children are safe.
You don’t have to give a potential date all your information. Things like your real name, where you live, your home phone number - even the names of your children, should all be kept back until you feel comfortable and until you know the time is right. Don’t ever feel pressured in to sharing information you’re not comfortable sharing and never broadcast personal information on the internet.
Before heading out on your date do your research. Use google and Facebook to find out more about who your date is and what they are about. Also take time to get to know that person before agreeing to meet face to face.
When you do finally arrange to meet face to face then make sure it’s a place where you feel comfortable and that it’s public. You may be smitten but that’s no excuse to ditch your common sense. Make sure that a friend knows where you are meeting and also arrange to check in with someone both when you’re out and when you get home so that they know that you are safe.